Have you ever spoken to a friend about one of your loved ones passing away, just to have the friend go on and on about how THEIR loved one passed away, but in a way that was much more sudden and tragic?

Yeah. Nobody likes that person. The main characters. The spotlight hoggers. The Self-centered assholes.

You know who else everyone doesn’t like?

“Nice Guys/Girls.” The bane of the dating world. The ones who feel that because they are “nice” they are owed companionship or at least your junk. The people who will call you every slur in the book for having the gall to reject them.

And when you combine the two, they reach heights of selfishness that make my ass itch.

The Nice Main Character™ claims to be more virtuous than they are, and deserve all the praise, accolades and maybe even sex for being such a good person. They aren’t just holier-than-thou, they’re holier-than-everyone. They see tragedies in the world and somehow make other people’s misfortune about themselves and what they would do to solve them, then not do anything to help unless someone else was watching.

For example, a young woman was murdered by her ex-boyfriend and news about it was posted on social media. You head to the comments section, and you see several guys that thought it would be a good idea to put in their two-cents; blaming the girl for being murdered and saying that it was her fault for “choosing” an abuser. These same douchecanoes then add that she would still be alive if she was with a nice guy, like maybe, I don’t know, HIMSELF. After all, he would never harm a woman in any way, and he would have treated her like a queen! But, she’ll never get treated like a queen because she was an idiot that picked an abusive jerk, wah wah wah.

First off, the main reason someone chooses to stay with an abuser is fear of retaliation if they leave. Second, blaming the victim of abuse for the violence committed against them is not very nice of you. Third, more often than not, Nice People™ are abusive, too. If not physically, they are mentally abusive, threatening to harm themselves or others for not getting nudes or some shit.

Virtue signaling Nice People™ will talk up how nice they are, but when asked how they are nice, it usually involves talking about someone else’s behavior or actions. They need to bring scummy behavior into the conversation to make themselves seem better in comparison. Like those guys who say “Hey, at least I didn’t try raping you! I totally could have, but I didn’t!” Dude, you don’t get a medal for NOT raping people. You’re supposed to know off instinct to not rape people for the same reason you don’t kick babies.

In another example, a woman is gearing up to marry her sweetheart, and invites her groom’s estranged family member without telling him. Wouldn’t it be a wonderful surprise for her hubby’s WHOLE family to participate in the big day? Then, the big day comes, and the groom is upset and calling the whole thing off. The bride is flabber-fucking-gasted and turns herself into the victim. She half-apologizes, saying she didn’t think it was that serious since her own family never did anything to warrant estrangement, and thus, she has never had any experience with it. She just wanted that big, dramatic reunion like they did in the movies! Is that so wrong?

Yes. It is. The family member is estranged for a reason, you dumb git. You just wanted some kind of “excitement” at YOUR wedding without considering the feelings of the other FUCKING FOCAL POINT of the day.

This is an example that happens a lot, though not always in the context of a wedding, and not always with a romantic partner. 

At the end of the day, there is no good reason to force someone you claim to care about to interact with someone who harmed them. Wanting the big, dramatic Hollywood reunion is a selfish reason. Thinking it will make your loved one happy is just ignorant, especially if they explained in detail how they were hurt. Furthermore, refusing to see your loved one’s point of view on their own mistreatment is shortsighted at best and malicious at worst. If someone you claim to care about says they don’t want to interact with a person because they hurt them, that should be enough reason to not bring them around. If you don’t respect that, you shouldn’t be surprised when you end up cut off.

And of course, you can’t forget the “Good Religious People.” The people who sprinkle in references to God, their place of worship, or their holy books in conversation. The people who will talk sympathetically about the plight of the homeless or the poor state of Child Protective Services. The people who get lots of likes on Facebook for sharing around those “thoughts and prayers” messages.

Then in the same breath will say the following things:

• Anyone who’s not a Christian should be deported!
• Did you see what she was wearing? Clearly, she was asking for it!
• They’re going to hell because they don’t/arent *insert criteria here*.
• You aren’t *insert criteria here*. Get out of my house. You aren’t my child anymore.

Basically, going on and on about the evils in the world, but being indifferent to (or actively participating in) other evils.

Nice Main Characters™ are self-centered and entitled at their core. But, they will swear up and down that they are nice, nicer than anyone you’ve ever met. Then, they will “prove” how nice they are by not doing at the bare minimum or by doing something “for you,” regardless of if you want it or not. But, being truly kind is more than just being nice for attention or companionship. It’s about understanding others, respecting them, and thinking about their feelings, no matter what. Doing something nice should be done for its own sake, not because there is something to be gained from it.